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Writer's pictureTarah Walter

Protecting Aging Family Members from Online Scams and Catfishing




As more older adults embrace the internet to stay connected, they also face unique risks. Social media, dating websites, and email make it easy for scammers to prey on the elderly, using tactics like catfishing and online fraud to deceive and manipulate them. Here’s a guide with essential tips and resources to help you protect your loved ones from online scams, including how to recognize red flags, safeguard personal information, and ensure they can enjoy the internet safely.


1. Educate on Common Scams Targeting Older Adults

Scammers often use specific tactics when targeting seniors, including fake romantic interests (catfishing), tech support scams, fake charities, and lottery or prize scams. Educating your loved one on these scams will help them feel more confident in recognizing and avoiding such traps.

Key Scams to Look Out For:

  • Catfishing Scams: A “romantic” partner who showers them with affection and quickly asks for money, often citing a personal emergency or travel cost.

  • Tech Support Scams: Fake tech support claiming their device has a virus and requiring remote access or payment to fix it.

  • Lottery/Prize Scams: Claims they’ve won a lottery or prize and need to pay a “processing fee” to collect their winnings.

  • Charity Scams: Scammers pretending to be a charity, often targeting recent natural disasters or heart-tugging causes.

Quick Tip:Sit down with your family member and show them examples of these scams. For instance, look at sample phishing emails or explain typical phrases and tactics used by catfishers.

Resources:

  • FBI Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3) – A resource to report suspected online fraud and learn about trending scams.

  • AARP Fraud Watch Network – Offers information on common scams targeting older adults and ways to prevent them.


2. Teach Them to Spot Red Flags in Online Relationships

Older adults seeking companionship are at risk of catfishing scams, where fraudsters pretend to be a romantic interest to exploit them financially. Teach them the red flags and the importance of verifying a new contact’s identity.

Common Red Flags in Catfishing Scams:

  • Expressing intense emotions very quickly, such as “I love you” within days or weeks.

  • On Social Media, they often have two first names, claim they are in the miliatry overseas and some tragedy has happened in their life.

  • Having a vague backstory or inconsistent information about their life.

  • Requesting money for emergencies, medical bills, or travel expenses to visit.

  • Refusing to video chat or meet in person, often with excuses about work or travel.

Action Step:Encourage your loved one to take things slowly in any online relationship and not to send money or personal information to someone they haven’t met in person. Remind them that genuine connections take time and caution, especially online.

Resources:

  • Romance Scam Survivor Stories and Advice – Stories and advice for identifying online romantic scams.

  • FTC Guide to Online Dating Scams – Tips from the Federal Trade Commission on how to spot and avoid romance scams.


3. Encourage the Use of Privacy Settings and Safe Online Practices

Help your aging family member set up privacy settings on social media and teach them basic online safety practices. Encourage them to think twice before sharing personal information and to keep their online profiles limited to trusted contacts.

Basic Online Safety Practices to Teach:

  • Set profiles to private on social media and limit friend requests to people they know personally.

  • Avoid sharing sensitive information, like their home address, birthdate, or financial details, with online contacts.

  • Never accept friend requests or messages from unknown individuals.

Resources:

  • StaySafeOnline – Offers guides and resources for online privacy and security.

  • National Cybersecurity Alliance Privacy Guide – Practical privacy tips for maintaining safe online practices.


4. Introduce Tools for Verifying Online Contacts

It’s easy for scammers to create fake profiles and identities. For older adults who may not know how to verify someone’s identity, you can introduce them to tools or services that can help confirm whether someone’s online presence is legitimate.

Tools and Methods for Verification:

  • Google Reverse Image Search: Help your family member learn how to check profile photos by uploading them to Google Images, which can reveal if the photo is taken from a stock image or belongs to someone else.

  • Background Check Services: Consider using a background check service, like Tea Spillers, to verify the identity of anyone they may be interacting with online. This can provide peace of mind and reduce the risk of scams.

  • Video Chat: Encourage them to ask new online contacts to video chat as a way of confirming their identity and intentions.

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5. Teach Them How to Report Suspicious Activity

Empowering older adults to report suspicious activity can prevent them from falling victim to scams and help authorities track down scammers. Make sure they know the steps to take if they suspect someone is trying to deceive or scam them.

Steps for Reporting Suspicious Activity:

  • Report the scam to the platform they’re using (e.g., Facebook, dating apps).

  • File a report with the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) or the Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3).

  • Notify their bank if they’ve sent money and suspect they’ve been scammed.

Resources:

  • Federal Trade Commission (FTC) Report Fraud – For reporting suspected fraud.

  • Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3) – A resource for reporting internet crime, including catfishing and online scams.


6. Encourage Regular Financial Monitoring

Regularly monitoring bank and credit card statements can help older adults catch any unauthorized charges early. If they notice something unusual, encourage them to contact their bank immediately.

Tips for Financial Safety:

  • Set up alerts on their bank account for any withdrawals or transactions over a set limit.

  • Use a credit monitoring service to stay alert for any unusual activity, such as new credit accounts or large purchases.

  • Schedule a monthly financial review with them if they’re comfortable to check for any anomalies together.

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7. Encourage Open Communication and a Support System

One of the most powerful ways to protect aging loved ones is by maintaining open communication. If they feel safe discussing their online interactions with family members, they’re more likely to ask for guidance and avoid secrecy that scammers often exploit.

Tips for Building Open Communication:

  • Check in with them about any new online connections or relationships they’re developing.

  • Encourage them to talk to you or a trusted friend before sending money to anyone they haven’t met in person.

  • Remind them that anyone who pressures them to act quickly is likely trying to manipulate them.

Resources:

  • AARP Online Community – A community where seniors can share experiences, get support, and learn more about staying safe online.


Final Thoughts

By teaching your loved ones these strategies and providing them with resources to verify contacts and report suspicious activity, you can help them feel empowered and safe online. Together, you can build their confidence to navigate the digital world while keeping their financial and emotional well-being protected.

Visit Tea Spillers for More Resources on Online Safety and Background ChecksFor additional support and verification services to protect your family members, visit TeaSpillers.com. Our team is here to help you and your loved ones stay safe and secure online.

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